“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” (Frankl, 1946)

your ego, is a total machination of your brain, based on your childhood, even at a point where you were only learning right and wrong. You are born from a seed, and you are in the soil, you decide how that shapes your life, your view of yourself. You can say that the soil was bad and therefore you were unable to bloom. Or you could say that you, the seed was high performing and overcame the bad soil, you found a way to bloom.

Belief in yourself is the most important factor to consider. What happened in your childhood will have an impact on you, but deciding how you use it is what makes the difference. You can use bad experiences to reflect on what you have overcome and what you will either never do in the future or what you will teach others to overcome. Or you can look at them as roadblocks and hold yourself to their standards. The choice is yours, I say it is easy, because for me it is easy. I haven’t been in a situation where I didn’t have food on the plate or been beaten by my father. My story is different, it has a different path, yet it was able to use my past to consider lessons learnt for the future instead.

You have this power, because the ego, your ego is your self-esteem, it is what you think of yourself. I am a firm believer that if something is too hard where you are now, get on a plane and go somewhere else. If you say you cannot afford the ticket, sell this book, or use it to get something in a trade or find another way. When you have tried 100 things, write them down. If you have then found the truth that you have only tried 10 things. Write them down, now do 11. Try 12 things to get what you want.